Self Comparison Syndrome: What you can learn from Post Malone


Self Comparison Syndrome: What you can learn from Post Malone

Post Malone is a weird cat.

He’s weird on another level. He has arbitrary face tattoos and wears some of the weirdest clothes. We can’t really define his music; hip-hop, rap, folk, pop… somewhere in there. I have no idea where to start. He recently did a hilarious interview with Jimmy Fallon, and from here you get a taste of what I mean.

I will say that for some reason, I like a lot of his music. He has catchy lyrics and knows how to get people to sing along. I won’t even lie about that.

The point I’m making is that Post Malone does a lot of stuff that has you shaking your head, wondering, “What the hell?” But, he seemingly does not care and does not appear to look for validation from others; and in some ways, many people can learn from this lesson.

Follow me closely as I take you on this strange journey.


Many people suffer from the idea that they need to be “up to par” with the rest of society. For example, this ridiculous piece of media on the right, basically hooking people and telling them they need to lose weight to feel good about themselves. Most of these trash magazines should end up in the... trash. This of course means, that we are constantly sizing up ourselves against everyone else. I’m not sure if there is a scientific term for this, but in any case we could call it, “Self Comparison Syndrome.”

From a survival perspective, we do this subconsciously. If we see a bigger and stronger, dangerous looking person, we decide if we should strategize away from them. In the woods, if I see an animal that looks threatening (all snakes), I will avoid it all costs, including yelling and screaming like a 5 year old.

However, due to constant media attention from new products and technology, we are always faced with the comparison question: How do I stack up?

How are we remotely supposed to accept ourselves as living, breathing, conscious humans when this is expectation that we are faced with when we are buying our groceries?

Something that fascinates me about Post Malone is how he is able to continue making his music, be himself, and disregard others’ opinions. With fitness goals, much of this debate we have internally shows itself in external ways; our performance, interactions with other people, and self discipline. For example, if we don’t feel good about ourselves and accept who we are, we will always seek the approval of others to find a source of positivity. This can be one of the powerful benefits of having a coach, a mentor, or a supportive spouse. They can fact check your thinking, and provide you with what you need to hear.

When we constantly compare our own status to others, we never get a sense of true happiness about who we are. With that, we are telling ourselves that we are never good enough and we can never reach satisfactory levels of improvement. This is the game that social media plays on us, because we only see people doing awesome stuff. Rarely, we see people actually being real humans and dealing with everyday challenges; the internal conversations we have and why we want to be more.

Post Malone is interesting because, in a world where he may be outcast as a “weird” dude, he just does his thing and is happy to stay true to who is. Being fit is just as mental as it is physical. We can be in shape, but if we constantly feel the social pressure and weight of it; our goals are not intrinsically motivated and that doesn’t give us a sense of personal accomplishment. It’s no wonder it’s can be incredibly hard to make health changes, especially when the goal is outside of our own design.


I know that this concept is a little out there, but I hope it gives YOU some validation in that even though you may be striving for new fitness goals this year, you are good enough and you can still be yourself. Self improvement starts when we are able to discover what we want to change, while accepting who we are.

To wrap up…

Be true to who you are, even if it means making sacrifices along the way.

Don’t try to meet the goals of others and define your own set of expectations with fitness.

Work tirelessly on yourself; physically, mentally, and emotionally.

“Like waking up from a bad dream, when we can see our prison, we also see our potential.”

- Tara Brach

Cheers everyone and Happy New Year.




From a Fit Pro: The Problem with Extremism


We've all heard the horror stories about someone getting rhabdo from exercising too much, passing out because they are doing a water and cayenne pepper detox vitamin packet cleanse, and our endless search for the ONE quick fix supplement to cure our insatiable need to make immediate progress.

Humans will do whatever it takes to skip over the fundamentals in order to (hopefully) get where they want to go. But, too many of us learn the hard way.

Some of us will repeatedly have our self confidence crushed, we will feel enormous self guilt, and a reluctance to start over, again. This merry go round process is the psychologically equivalent to getting run over by a garbage truck. It hurts and it smells bad, so we have a hard time getting back to it.

This is the problem with extremism approaches. It’s all or nothing. Win or lose. Most times we quit before we even have the chance to see which one.

I can, in many cases at the very least, applaud the effort because let’s face it: hopefully we’ve learned something.

Here are some things that I have learned that I know “work”:

Hard Work and Effort - Nothing is given in this day in age. Period. It must be earned by you and you alone.

Huh? Seems a bit... optimistic.

Huh? Seems a bit... optimistic.

Discipline and Deliberate Practice - When you get better at something (ex. fitness, weights, nutritional choices, running) it builds confidence, meaning, self esteem, and pride. In this case, you are getting better at managing your own health.

Positivity and optimism - And before you say it, I’m not talking about being blindly positive and never taking ownership of your own mistakes. I’m talking about finding the good and focusing your energy on that. If we focus on negativity we will become it.

Mastery and task oriented goals - This of course, is in contrast to outcome related goals. People respond better to focusing on the one thing in front of them vs. the daunting task of losing all that weight. Just do what you need to do, today, in the next hour, or right in this moment.

Eating real food - Just remember that whole food choices are better processed and more absorbed than supplemental and synthetic ones. So, when you are weighing up which MLM cleanse to do that exclusively uses supplements as the food source, maybe take a peek at something else. Again, supplements are by definition “something that completes or enhances when added to it.” Thank you Yahoo search engine for clearing that up.

Simplicity - We are busy these days. Make things simple. If boring works for you, then do it. Make those decisions easy and they will be easy to make consistently. Over time the results will follow.

Those, are what I’ve got, but here’s another one.

On Target Fitness is running two great programs this Fall. They are Fit in 42 and the Fall Back to Fitness. We do what works.

Fit in 42 is a 6 week complete immersion into fitness and nutrition. It is highly educational and designed to immediately impact the way you think, feel, and treat yo’self.

Fall Back to Fitness is another 6 week program that is designed to give you an idea to see what it’s like in our gym. To see if in fact, this fitness community is right for you and whether those health and fitness goals (that keep coming up over dinner) can be achieved here.

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PS: Thanks for reading. It's been a while since I've put something together, but please let me know if I can help you achieve your own fitness goals.